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When I first dyed my hair lilac back in 2012 after mind blowing holiday to New York City - I felt empowered and liberated from societies shackles, I came back home to a number of people (my parents included) that gasped and was utterly in shock at how much of a radically statement I was making. Questions and exclaimations like "How would you ever get a proper job?", "Who would respect you on face value?" and the ultimate "Why can't you just have normal coloured hair?" were thrown at me.
Quite frankly - I didn't care because quite honestly I chose to dye my hair purple because I've always wanted purple hair - it wasn't because I wanted to jump on the trend of pastel hair nor was I rebelling (or at least consciously) against anything. One of the most ironically beautiful things that I've learnt from changing my hair well over 2 years ago to pastel purple is that I've never felt more like myself - genuinely comfortable in my own skin - with purple hair! I hear you chuckle, yes I thought it was a bit funny too yet somehow it makes sense to me. When I had 'normal' dyed hair, I tried every which way colour, brown, ombre, blonde tips - you name it I tried it and still was never satisfied, constantly changing to find myself through my hair. Finally I took the plunge and have never looked back - I feel entirely and wholeheartedly myself. Now I know what you're thinking, it's only hair or that how can you be 'yourself' if pastel goths, pastel fashionistas and all round pastel everything trend has erupted everywhere?
I think it wasn't social acceptance that I was searching for - rather self acceptance and self love and it was only by changing my hair to a colour I've longed for, for years that I found that within myself.
I urge to you reading this, whether you're a long time Little Black Book reader or just passing by - to love yourself and do whatever it is that makes you happy and if it's something life changing or scary, take a risk, take the plunge and you'll never know the outcome till you've given it a go. You might love it or hate it but at the very least you've tried it.
If it has been a spontaneous trip to New York or Paris - book your flights and explore the world. If you've always wanted to splurge on that designer bag go on and spoil yourself - that would be a smart investment piece anyway so really you're just being smart *wink*. And if it is that you've been eyeing girls on Instagram and Tumblr looking at their pastel hair and thinking you want that hair but could 'never' do it - get that negative mentality out of your mind and go out and find a great salon to dye your hair blonde! If you just don't know where to start, ask these girls or boys on the net where they get their hair done at - I'm sure they'll be flattered and more than glad to help out a fellow blossoming unicorn turn into a pegasus!
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